Fervent: Prayer Strategy for Family


Hi friends! 

Have you put together your prayer strategy for identity? I hope so! This week we are moving on to Prayer Strategy number four, family! If you're just joining us, come on in! We're working through the book, Fervent by Priscilla Shirer. If you want to purchase the book you can do so through this affiliate link by clicking here. (This post contains an affiliate link, which provides me with a small compensation when you purchase your book through my link. Thank you so much for supporting my small business!)

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Family, where life begins and love never ends. I'm sure you've all heard this popular quote, and it's probably something that resonates with all of us. I think that deep, unconditional love is what makes family so special to each of us. No matter what we've gone through, or the hurts we've inflicted on one another, or the time that's passed between visits, family is family. And we all have this deep, inherent love for the people in our family. So why is prayer for our family so important?   

If I were your enemy, I’d seek to disintegrate your family and destroy every member of it. I’d want to tear away at your trust and unity and turn everyone’s love inward on themselves. I’d make sure your family didn’t look anything like it’s supposed to. Because then people would look at your Christian marriage, your Christian kids, and see you’re no different, no stronger than anybody else - that God, underneath it all, really doesn’t change anything.
— Fervent by Priscilla Shirer

Family can be kind of complicated. Am I right? ha! We all have a little crazy in our families. Relationships that we struggle with, family members who we struggle to understand. We know how to get under each others skin, but we also know just the right thing to say to comfort one another. I love this chapter of the book, because I think our natural tendency is to blame all of the tension, or hurt, or little annoyances on one another. Now, I'm not saying that maybe some of that isn't self-inflicted, but friends, the enemy is constantly at work trying to cause conflict and disrupt the love amongst each of us in our families. This is why prayer for our families is so important.

So when you and I begin feeling pressure and tension and splintering and conflict at home, when little trifling things start bunching together to become this one big thing - when nitpicking turns into bickering; the bickering into outbursts; the outbursts into rude, below-the-belt unkindness and bitterness; the bitterness into slow, seething pullbacks of silence and isolation - these things bear all the marks of an outside enemy.
— Fervent by Priscilla Shirer

It is so easy to become self-absorbed within our family relationships and take every little thing personally or make snide little remarks to one another in the heat of the moment. And if we're not careful, those little remarks start building up and soon enough we're tucking away a pile of hurts in our heart and that deep, inherent love that we have for one another as family, starts feeling more like an obligation than a joy and a blessing. And when that happens, we can know that Satan has been lingering around a little too closely. Friends, our family and our relationships with those people in our family, are so very important. God divinely placed our families together for a reason. We need one another. And if it feels like that isn't the case, then you've got to cry out to God and pray fervently for those relationships! If you have someone in your family, and your relationship with them is struggling or hurting, pray and ask God to heal the relationship, and soften your hearts toward one another. The love of God can heal the deepest hurts and even the most damaged relationships. If you're feeling pretty good about where you are as a family (kudos to you!), then pray for protection, unity, and a continued deep, unconditional love for one another. My mom always says vitamins should be taken consistently to help build your immunity and maintain good health, not just when you're feeling bad. The same goes for prayer! Don't wait to start praying for your family and relationships when things go south. Pray now, pray fervently, and pray continually!


If you're following along in the book, Priscillia lists several verses specific for praying for your marriage, husband, and children on pages 86-91. Maybe you're not married or you don't have children, should you skip this prayer strategy? Absolutely not! Create a prayer strategy for your immediate family (parents/siblings), or for your future family (husband/children). We all know that family is not limited to blood, so don't be afraid to pray for those people in your life who treat you like family!


Are you ready to pray fervently for your family? To get started, here are some scriptures you might consider adding into your prayer strategy for family. 

  • Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
  • Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 (ESV)
  •  Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (ESV)
  • You were cleansed from your sins when you obeyed the truth, so now you must show sincere love to each other as brothers and sisters. Love each other deeply with all your heart. 1 Peter 1:22 (NLT)
  • Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 (ESV)
  • May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. Romans 15:13 (ESV)
  • Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2 (ESV)
  • Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10 (NLT)


Go ahead and grab your Heartfelt Prayers Journal and craft your prayer strategy for FAMILY. Remember, if you don't have a journal, you can download this Prayer Journal that I created specifically for this study and use it throughout the series!


As I mentioned before, I'll be sharing my prayers with you to serve as inspiration as you work to craft your very own! In my war binder, I created a prayer for my husband, one for our marriage, and also a prayer for myself as a wife. But, since family looks different for each of us, I wrote a generic prayer that can be prayed by anyone for their family.




I'm praying for you as you work to craft a prayer for your family. See you next week as we dive into prayer strategy number five on our PAST. 

Rooted in the love of Jesus, 

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